"Why?" might feel comfortable but "Why not?" could make you fly.

'Should I move cities?'. 'Should I accept that new job?'. 'Do I invest in this start up?'

I used to believe that big changes required material corresponding actions or efforts. However, I see now that the most powerful pivots can come from a minor, but monumental change in perspective.

'Why? '

"Why?" brings to mind some of the following notions: risk aversion, stability mindset and comfort seeking. Focussing more on the downside loss potential of decisions you are facing than the unknown road ahead. Why should I move cities? Why should I accept that new job? Why rock the boat??

When "Why?" works: times in life in which you are looking to maintain stability and preservation. If you are happy and the status quo fulfils your targets, then change and the uncertainty that comes with it is not going to appeal to you at this time.

'Why not?'

Starting with "Why not?" feels lighter, if a bit scarier, than with "Why?" as the focus shifts towards growth and opportunity, both of which can be uncomfortable. Why not take that job? Why not invest in this founder? Why not rock that silly boat??

When you are looking for a step change or create something new, asking 'Why not?' will begin to paint the picture of how to get to your goal, while asking 'Why?' might bring up more reasons to stay put than to move forward.

Put another way, "Why not?" looks to what could be, a forward thinking mindset, while "Why?" looks at what is, keeping focus on the present.

It sounds simple, but the potential positive impact of this perspective switch is hard to overstate. So, the next time someone asks you about that new opportunity (or even that new ice cream flavour), try leading with "Why not?" instead of "Why?" and see what adventures unfold.